New Businesses publish your DBA
Publish a New Change easily
Place a Classified in Tri-County Sentry
Carry Out & Delivery Directory
By Chris Frost
Tri County Sentry
You have to wonder about parents who always validate their children no matter what they do. Don't get me wrong, you should always love and support your kids, but that doesn't mean they don't need guidance along the way.
For example, my parents praised me highly when I struck out the final batter the day my team won the minor league green division Little League World Series in 1970. But at the same time, when I got shocked with huge home run bombs and lost in the playoffs and was upset because I didn't agree with the umpire's strike zone, my mother told me to accept the reality of the situation, learn from it, and use it as fuel the next time I took the mound.
I was biased and saw myself as the expert. My mother explained to me the umpire was the expert, and if he wasn't, he wouldn't be behind the plate. If he didn't do well, he wouldn't have umpired the games. I grew up in an Italian section of Long Island, New York. He would have been pummeled.
Just for fun, let's use a graphic example. I've interviewed people who have expressed their points of view to city management about how to govern the city and were dismissed summarily. Those people had ideas based on a theory, but the reality is that it won't work according to the city manager and all his experience.
I've spoken to this person, and this person couldn't accept this. With that said, this person has gone around the letter he got and has tried to bypass the letter in any way possible. In other words, this person was going to get what this person wanted.
Try to understand; I understand Alfred Adler's definition of a fully functioning person and feeling good about yourself, but there has to be a sense of humility. Sometimes, you need to look to the professionals to guide you. You're not right 100 percent of the time. Input is feedback, but we elected our officials, and it is their job to get the job done.
It's like the roads in Oxnard. Everyone forgets that the city manager got here three years ago, and before that, the city was a mess. Revenue was down, the people who were trying to call attention to the problem were summarily dismissed, and the first time I interviewed the city manager at National Night Out I asked him about the situation, and he told me that he was just getting started. We got here at the same time. It was my second story. Roads don't fall apart overnight, people.
Fast forward 36 months, and there is a functioning plan for the roads, and everyone seems to forget, while the city needed to lay people off because it was leveraged like some third-world country, the people who made this happen rubber-stamped this mess right in front of us.
Let me take a moment to explain how government works. The voters solve the problems of the city with their vote. They vote for the people who represent the opinions, and the elected officials carry out your wishes. Perhaps if your parents taught you that they love you, but you are not the end-all and be-all of everything, you'd let the experts fix the problem.